As poet and philosopher Rumi once eloquently said, “raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder.” Parenting is a challenging journey, and the truth is that nobody has everything figured out. One parenting style might suit others best, and some might favor other methods.
However, children respond better to a calm demeanor, so it’s best to avoid dealing with them with anger. Gentle parenting is a transformative style that can help you raise confident, independent, and, most importantly, happy children. This method involves empathy, respect, understanding, and setting healthy boundaries.
How can you incorporate gentle parenting into your daily life? Here are helpful tips to create a healthy relationship with your kids:
1. Comment on the action, not the person. When speaking to your child, try to separate the action from the person. Instead of saying, “you’re being mean to your brother,” rephrase it and instead say, “I don’t think your brother appreciates what you did. Let’s try something else and see how he responds.”
The former is focused on the child, while the second is focused on the action. Focusing on the action removes the finger pointing and blame, and emphasizes what he is doing wrong.
2. Walk the talk. Children follow what you do, not what you say. If you want your children to become kind and respectful, you should model all kinds of kindness. You should not only teach them how to be kind to others but also to themselves.
One way to do this is by showing them how to do it. If you and your spouse are arguing, do it privately. Always be respectful to each other in your child’s presence. Exemplify kindness to yourself by taking care of your mind and body.
3. Reinforce positive action. Instead of saying no and making your child feel bad, try a different approach, set clear boundaries, and focus on the action that you are asking of your child.
One approach to try is by stressing the desired positive action, rather than asking them to stop the negative action. If your child is being rough to other children in the playground or at school, you can try saying, “be more gentle with the other kids,” instead of yelling “stop that!” Treating them with kindness will encourage them to pass it forward.
4. Support their dreams. Gentle parenting involves a better understanding of your child’s hopes and aspirations. Show interest and nurture their interest and passion. Help them make their visions become reality by preparing for their future needs.
All parents, in their great love for their children, want to give them everything they need, and most especially help them fulfill their dreams. Unfortunately, supporting these dreams can be costly. But with AIA Philippines’ Future Scholar, any parent who wishes to make those aspirations happen can be within reach. Future Scholar is an insurance product that gives guaranteed cash payouts that can help fulfill your child’s ambitions. There’s no better way to show your love for your child than ensuring that you can provide for their dream, no matter what happens in life.
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